Have you ever felt like you are on a hamster wheel going around and around but not getting anywhere?
A few years ago I went on a missions trip to Guatemala – what an amazing experience! One of the activities that we did on our down time was to go kayaking on the lake. Nothing I can say to you can describe the beauty of sitting in a kayak on that lake. The water was a deep blue, it was calm, and the surface sparkled like diamonds from the rays of the morning sun. It was gorgeous! One morning, myself and a few of the other ladies decided to go kayaking. We had an oar(s) we had to use in order to move us through the water. Kayaking looks easy but for a beginner – takes practice. So in theory you dip the oar in the water and let the flat part go pushing through the water and you then do the same with the other side. Sounds easy right? Not so much. I would do my version of what the ladies told me to do but I would end up going in the opposite direction OR the kayak would go in circles OR the kayak would threaten to capsize. Funny to think about now, but at the time I was a little bit scared because the group was going one way, I was going the other and the lake was soooooooo big. ALSO you had to be careful of the strength of the waves that pushed the kayak from boats motoring by. ALSO you had to be careful of the boats themselves!
So much could go wrong!
But I stopped, took a breath, smiled and carried on. I reset. In order to kayak successfully I had to learn to effectively use a vital tool – I had to use my Oars.
To be happy requires the same mindset. Many people will try things over and over again to be happy to their core. To obtain that inner peace. To be hopeful even in the face of a huge storm. To bounce back from adversity and be truly happy. How do we achieve this? Using O.A.R.S. Get your pens out – you are going to want to write this down. If you know me well, you know I got an acronym for you!
O – observe. What is the current state of affairs. Where are you at? Look at your history – have you been here before? Notice any patterns? Take stock of what’s going on.
A – assess. Let’s make meaning of what we’ve observed. What’s our role? What’s our level of awareness? Become a student of yourself – assess and make meaning. We have a number of tools we refer our clients to use during this phase – VIA Strengths Survey, Clifton Strength Finder and Extended DiSC.
R – reprogram. Did you know that this was possible? The way we think and behave today does not have to be the way we think and behave tomorrow if those patterns are not serving us well. Our subconsciousness drives our consciousness. We often do things over and over without thinking because it’s part of our mental programming. It can be reprogrammed. It takes some decisions and increase our awareness level BUT if we pay attention to what we read, what we watch, what we listen to, who we hang around and how we think – we can reprogram our minds.
S – step into action. Create and execute a plan. Often times this requires a coach, mentor, teacher to help guide and support. But just think, remember back to the kayak story – with information, support, guidance, and practice we start moving in the direction we want to go.
When we take the time to observe our current state, assess our situation, reprogram our thinking and step into action – we use our mental OARS to guide us in the direction we want to go.
You got this.
Being happy to the core entails being responsible and accepting responsibility for our choices, actions and decisions. Being open to different perspectives and allowing yourself to experience new things is just one way to get to that core happy place. You totally got this. We totally got this. #SlayYourDay.
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