SLAY Your Inner Bully – NOW!

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If you have been following me for a little bit then you would have heard me talk about, write about, and teach about how to Slay that Inner Bully that we all have.  However, some of you may not know what I mean when I say Slay Your Inner Bully  so I’m going to break it down.

Every single one of us on this earth, whether you are a multi-millionaire or of very meager means (or somewhere in between) have an inner voice.  This voice can encourage us, correct us, and it can motivate us to do things we only dreamed of doing.  However, if not managed correctly, this voice can kill our spirit.  What I mean is that this voice has the ability to remind us of all of our mistakes, to tell us that we are not enough, and to allow us to be comfortable living in fear or worse, it will encourage us to live within our comfort zone.

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I like to read and I love to people watch.  When I do this it allows me to study human behavior.  This has helped me to do effective work with clients whether they are seeing me for therapy or for coaching.  What I have observed over and over again, is that people’s lack of awareness of self combined with the mismanagement of their inner critic (inner bully) feeds the insecurities that we have and prevents us from living our life in abundance.  When I say abundance I mean being happy to the core.

For those of you who do not know, I went through a really low period in my life.  As I was going through it, my support team was surprised but happy that my outlook was that I would get through it because so often when people are depressed they do not have that hope to know that there is light at the end of the tunnel.  But I did.  I vowed that as I spent time to heal, I would spend the rest of my life helping others learn the strategies needed to move past their obstacles and live an abundant life.   That feeling of hopelessness does not have to be your reality.  There are ways to get past it.

Soooooooooooooo, you should know that I am a problem solver.  If I do not see a solution I will figure out how to create a solution.  And that is exactly what I did when it comes to slaying that inner bully.  For those of you who want to learn these strategies too, I’m going to suggest you do two things:

  1.  Watch the video above.  If you already have then you’ve already started to invest in you!  AWESOME!  You will agree with me that the video is fun, it’s quick, and it’s full of some great tips.  If you missed it, Click HERE  (Please subscribe to the youtube channel for more great videos in 2019):  
  2.   Consider joining me and my biz partner, Jennifer Jimbere, for the next round of the Slay Your Inner Bully  course.  You will join other powerful people who want to slay their inner bully and together we will work together for 6 weeks – weekly online class, encouraging emails, one on one access with the Thrive Experts, a supportive group and lots of learning and fun.                                                                      Click the link here to join us January 8th: https://thrivexperts.com/slay-your-inner-bully/   (Please note that all classes are recorded so if you cannot make it live, the link will be sent to you and you can still participate in a meaningful way).

One of the ways to thrive in your life is to take time to invest in yourself.  Invest your time and resources into always making you the best you that you can be (I think i got that from Dr. Seuss).  

You totally got this and remember #SlayYourDay.

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Let’s Get Our Happiness On!

We have talked about  doing a self audit earlier this week
(see Dec. 10, 2018 post) and I promised to offer up strategies and tools to help accomplish a great personal audit. Well today, let’s do a happiness audit shall we?

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Happiness is a subjective emotion wouldn’t you think? I mean, what makes me happy will not necessarily make you happy. However, in order for us all to be on the same page with what I mean when I use the word happy let’s work from the same definition.  

The best definition that I have come by was written by Rubin Khoddam Ph.D who wrote:

Research in the field of positive psychology and happiness often define a happy person as someone who experiences frequent positive emotions, such as joy, interest, and pride, and infrequent (though not absent) negative emotions, such as sadness, anxiety and anger (Lyubomirsky et al., 2005). Happiness has also been said to relate to life satisfaction, appreciation of life, moments of pleasure, but overall it has to do with the positive experience of emotions.

Basically a happy person will experience both positive and negative emotions but the frequency of the experience of positive emotions is more than the experience of negative emotions.  Make sense?

So how do we do an audit? How do we test how happy we actually are?

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In my pursuit to find answers to these questions I came across a psychologist named Barbara L. Fredrickson. She studies the science of Positive Psychology and the pursuit of happiness. She and her team have developed the happiness test.  Click this link to try it out:  https://www.pursuit-of-happiness.org/science-of-happiness/…/

This test will help to measure your personal happiness and provide you with suggestions on how to improve your score (assuming it needs improving).

Try it out! You may be surprised by the result. Remember, becoming aware of your current state is the best way to improve your current state.

For those of you who may be struggling with the concept of being happy to the core, it may be because of that inner voice that I call the inner bully.  The inner bully can really feed us a load of crap that we, more often than not, will believe.  It will tell us what we can and cannot do while reminding us of all the things we have ever done wrong in life – sound familiar?  If you are having some difficulty managing that inner bully or as I like to say SLAYING that inner bully then you are in luck!  Check out this link:  https://thrivexperts.com/slay-your-inner-bully/ and join me and my partner in crime, Jennifer Jimbere, as we help you to learn the skills and strategies to slay that inner bully.  

https://thrivexperts.com/slay-your-inner-bully/

If you have questions there are almost a dozen ways to reach me – check it out below.

Oh – and don’t forget #SlayYourDay. You got this!

Jennifer Slay is an award winning speaker and best selling author. She is a registered social worker, therapist and one half of the Thrive Experts. For more information or to book Jennifer to speak at your event, email her atinfo@jenslay.com or call 1-877-786-7190. 

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Why Re-invent the Wheel?

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Have you ever been in a creative mood or you found yourself brainstorming with a group of people and after some time someone says “Let’s not reinvent the wheel”? Typically people say this when they have spent a significant period of time trying to create something that is unique and fresh instead of building on what has already been done. Reinventing the wheel is often considered to be a time stealer and a frustration enhancer.

I have spent my career working with people to help them improve their current state. I have always been curious as to what makes a person tick. The study of human behavior is my drug! However, my curiosity in observation and analyzing has helped me to navigate through my own life and also be more empathetic to others. It has also helped me to realize my purose – to help people find their inner happiness or what I like to call core happiness. I essentially help people to fall in love with their life using tools they did not know they had!

But let’s get back to the matter at hand.

Today I want to focus on psychologist, Abraham Maslow. Some of you may have heard about him in school. He is the psychologist that proposed the theory of Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs. Essentially, Maslow theorized that humans needed to meet specific base needs in order to self-actualize (to realize their full potential and pursue it). 

Maslow’s Heirarchy of Needs

Maslow initially suggested that in order to achieve the top need, all of the needs before it (below it) needed to be met. For example, in order to achieve the need of safety the physiological needs had to be met. To meet the need of love/belonging, the safety needs had to be met and so on and so forth. Other researchers and scientists have argued that these levels are continuously overlapping each other and therefore the level preceding does not actually have to be fully met to reach the next level. I tend to agree with that argument.

Where am I going with this?

If we take a look at Maslow’s hierarchy of needs and reflect on our own lives to become aware of how we are doing at each of the levels, what results might come up for you? If we became aware of our innate needs and created a plan to have our needs sufficiently (or abundantly) met, how might our lives look different? Instead of reinventing the wheel to figure out what the meaning of life/happiness is and how we can continually motivate ourselves to meet our full potential, why not build off of what has already been theorized? The act of reflection of our lives is like taking an audit – an examination of how we are doing. In this fast paced world we can easily get lost in the hustle and bustle and not take that needed time to reflect and take the necessary steps to take care of our basic needs.

Take a look at where you fair on Maslow’s hierarchy of needs as part of your daily/weekly personal audit. If there are areas you think that could use some work then I encourage you to start there. Are you thinking – how do you take an audit of your life? Let’s start somewhere simple – take a minimum of 5min per day to be still and do nothing. During this 5 min, I encourage you to allow whatever thoughts are on your mind to run through your mind and BE STILL. Start the meditation with 3 things you are grateful and end it with 3 things you are grateful for. This allows you to get into a positive frame of mind and allows you to put perspective on whatever you are going through.

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Come back for more tips and strategies on how to do a personal audit. If you are in need of support, reach out and contact me at the number below and we can schedule a chat. You have all of the basic tools you need to succeed – but a little support never hurt anyone.

If you know that you want to be a part of a group of people who are looking to live life slaying the obstacles that come their way make sure to subscribe to this blog and like my fb pages (see below).

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Jennifer Slay is an award winning speaker and best selling author. She is a registered social worker, therapist and one half of the Thrive Experts. For more information or to book Jennifer to speak at your event, email her at info@jenslay.com or call 1-877-786-7190. 

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Want to Thrive?

  HEAR YE, HEAR YE!!!!

Jen Slay (me) wants to introduce an event for you to enhance your thriving abilities!

Introducing The Thrive Academy: a new way to Thrive!

“According to research, the two factors that effectively help people achieve the behavior change they desire are incentives and accountability.” ~ The Mission Podcasts

For those of you who were not aware, I have a sister company called Thrive Experts.  The focus is to help individuals and businesses thrive in their current situations – despite their current conditions.  Over my time as a counselor, a coach and now as a Thrive Expert, I have heard hundreds of excuses (reasons) for why goals have not been met.  Th most common complaints have been:

I have no time.

I can’t afford it.

I don’t know how.

I am missing the support I need to ____.

I am stuck.

Have you ever said any of these? Odds are you have.  Don’t worry though – you are not alone.  I have said some of these statements myself!

However, if you know me then you know I am a woman who will find a solution to the problem.  The solution is The Thrive Academy.

With an investment of $25 per week and 30 minutes of your time per week, the Thrive Experts will provide you with weekly educational strategy sessions and accountability partners that will help move you forward and get results.

Cool right?

It is time to focus on the right tasks whether in business, relationships, finances or life in general.

The Thrive Academy is your solution.

The time is now.

Join us EVERY Monday at 8 AM EST beginning Nov 5, 2018.

Recordings Available on demand to paid participants.

Take action. Secure your spot. Click here. > https://www.paypal.com/cgi-bin/webscr

Operate above the line.

Live Life Better Than Good.

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How Does Change Really Happen?

As a counselor and as a coach there is one thing that people complain about A LOT! Most of us at one time or the other have felt this way too. It is that feeling of –

STUCK!!

That stuck feeling is especially difficult when we know in our heads what we need to do to create the change to move forward but then for one reason or the other we do not do it. Well, if I may simplify the process of change may I suggest that real change requires three steps.

1. A decision

2. Practice

3. Accountability

Like I said, I am simplifying the process. However, ideally what we want to do is to rewire our brains to create new pathways which create new habits which creates CHANGE. I was listening to an interview yesterday where Barbara Oakley, PhD was interviewing a very successful entrepreneur and he said “When you take action you always get results.” The result may not always be exactly what we want, but it gets us closer to where we want to be. Hmmmmmmm.

So how do we create this change? Here are a couple of tips to get started:

1. Make a decision. When we decide what behaviors are not serving us well then we can decide to make a change. Do you want to portray being cool as a cucumber during a crisis instead of anxious and uneasy? Do you want to curve the amount of desserts you eat in order to live a healthier lifestyle? Do you want to start reading more in an effort to gain more knowledge on a particular subject and expand your mind? No matter what the behavior or desired goal, identify it and make a decision of what you want the change/improvement to look like.

2. Practice what you preach! You made your decision now practice the skill. The key is to be aware and to consciously make decisions throughout your day that allow you to practice what it is you want to learn to do or to change. The more we practice the more it becomes a habit. A habit is something we do subconsciously. It is something that we do without thinking. If we can consciously practice the new behavior/strategy/skill then it will eventually become part of our subconscious which means it becomes something we do automatically. This is our goal!

3. Be accountable to someone. Research shows that when you are partnered with a person who is in agreement with your goals and will hold you accountable to what you say – YOU WILL BE MORE SUCCESSFUL! I know that when I tell someone I am going to do something I make every effort to follow through because I really do not like feeling like I am giving an excuse for why I did not do what I said I was going to do. Of course, sometimes things come up, BUT more often than not, the reason for not following through is because when we are not accountable to someone we have a tendency to procrastinate. It’s true. Being accountable to someone increases our rate of success.

The steps to create change are simple – but not necessarily easy. Increase your chances for success by making a decision, practicing what you preach, and being held accountable. Remember, when we take action we will always get a result.

This is how we thrive. Live life better than good.

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Jennifer Slay is an award winning speaker and best selling author. She is a registered social worker and therapist and one half of the Thrive Experts. For more information or to book Jennifer/Thrive experts to speak at your event, email at info@thrivexperts.com or call 1-877-786-7190.

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Simple Lessons the Best Lessons

Today I want to share how grateful I am for simplistic situations that can be used to teach life lessons.

Life has the ability to change in the mere blink of an eye – literally. Last night I was hanging out with my parents and my eldest son. Always a fun time. Then suddenly my eyes started to itch. I shrugged it off thinking I just had to wash off my eye makeup. Then, within minutes, they started to really itch. Now I’m thinking – allergies. Then my sinuses started, my chest hurt, and I started to feel awful. When I say this was a sudden onset, I mean, this happened within minutes. It looked as though I was heading for a summer cold. So I went to the home remedies and  immediately boiled some water, and put together the mix of honey, lemon and apple cider vinegar. I drank it and wrapped myself in a blanket and got some sleep. I woke up this morning, feeling better but still a little weak. The part I excluded from the story was that my son wanted to talk to me about his schooling in the fall and wanted to make some plans. My son is very independent and when he says “mom let’s chat” I know it is a pretty big deal. So I had a choice – push through and give him as much of my attention or take care of myself.

I decided to take care of myself. I told him I wasn’t feeling well and we could chat in the morning. This may not seem like a big deal but when it comes to my children, I try my best to be there for them right when they need me. What I did do, was provide him with the paperwork he needed to help him with his issue but ultimately I chose to take care of myself.

What’s the point?

It is rather a simple one really. Over the last couple of weeks, the posts and articles that we, at Thrive Experts, have been posting discuss integrity and honesty. Being an example is part of integrity. Showing yourself and others that you matter by taking care of your own needs lets yourself know, and others know, that you matter. Pushing through may seem admirable and martyr-like, however, the message you tell yourself subconsciously is that your needs do not matter. This impacts your thoughts and your self-confidence which ultimately will impact your self-worth. It’s true! What we have to understand is that EVERY choice we make impacts our subconsciousness. It gives our subconsciousness messages about how we feel about ourselves and the world around us. Our subconscious drives our consciousness. Therefore, those decisions that seem simplistic are really a pretty big deal.

This is a simple example, but an effective one in that it shows how sometimes, our lives can take an unexpected twist after we have made our plans. We are left with choices and we have to decide what is best. Push through and risk making a mistake because you are not at your optimal place or take the break and come back stronger? The choice is ultimately yours.

Living your life with integrity means being very aware of what your body is telling you and taking the appropriate action to take care of yourself. This is how we thrive.

Live life better than good. Operate above the line.

Please like, share and comment below.  I appreciate you.  Be sure to visit me over at Thrive Experts  www.thrivexperts.com and contact me, Jen Slay, or Jennifer Jimbere with any questions you may have.

Jennifer Slay is an award winning speaker and best selling author. She is a practicing social worker and therapist and one half of the Thrive Experts. For more information or to book Jennifer to speak at your event, email at info@jenslay.com or call 1-877-786-7190.

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Slay Your Day!

P.S. I wrote a book called Finesse Your Life – Mind, Body and Spirit AND the Finesse Your Life Journal is also available!  Check it out on Amazon.com and Amazon.ca!  Paperback and Kindle versions available.  For an autographed copy please go to the website under the “shop” tab or shoot me an email at info@jenslay.com.

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Want to hang out with me 365 days a year?  Check out the Finesse Your Life Journal.  This journal will help you to focus on gratitude, see yourself in a positive light, and allow you to totally and completely express yourself with no judgement.  https://www.amazon.com/Finesse-Your-Life-Journal-Jennifer/dp/197431720X/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1504891247&sr=8-1&keywords=finesse+your+life+journal
P.P.S I was a featured author in Dreaming Big Being Bold and made the International Best Selling Author status.  Message me at info@jenslay.com to get your copy today!
http://ow.ly/ipjk30eUSXU
Dreaming Big Being Bold 3: Inspiring Stories From Visionaries, Trailblazers & Change Makers by [Morand, Paula, Craig, Victoria]

 

That VOICE!

We all have a voice in our head that can be used to encourage and push ourselves forward. It can motivate us and provide us with daily reminders of just how wonderfully unique we are – every single one of us.  It’s too bad that this  ‘good’ voice is not the normal experience for many of us.  In fact, that inner voice can be our worst critic, or as I call it – an inner bully.
A bully uses manipulation and fear to taunt us into doing or not doing something.  A bully will tease and put us down in an effort to damage our spirit and make us feel low.  Well, let’s think about the inner bully for a moment.  The inner bully is loudest when we want to take a step towards trying something new – am I right?  When we take a step outside of the our comfort zone the bully reminds us of our short comings and tries to dissuade us from improving ourselves.
Why do you think this happens?
Well, the inner bully likes the status quo – it likes things just the way they are.  the inner bully would prefer for things to stay the way they are and not change.  It likes predictable because it is manageable and there is no risk.  In essence the bully manipulates us into not trying or pursuing something new by using our fears and inaction against us.
How is this working for you?  For me – IT SUCKED!
My bully became a roaring megaphone in my head during the most challenging times in my life to the point where I literally wanted to fall asleep and not wake up – seriously.
How did I learn to control it and manage it?  I’d love to share that with you.
Please join me this evening, Friday, June 15th at 9pm EST for a FREE Slay Your Inner Bully Masterclass.
June 15, 2018: https://lnkd.in/d3GR2pc -9pm EST
In this class you will be introduced to learning how to:
 
Eliminate Your Abundance Blocks
 
Transform Yourself into a Catalyst for Positive Change
 
Expand Abundance in Every Area of Your Life
 
Can’t make it tonight?  Register for one of the upcoming Slay Your Inner Bully FREE masterclasses and help yourself shift your life for the better!
June 19, 2018: https://lnkd.in/d2H7B7W -8am EST
June 30, 2018: https://lnkd.in/d_fUFq7 -8am EST
June 30, 2018: https://lnkd.in/d_jku5h -8pm EST

 See you soon and remember – YOU GOT THIS!  #SlayYourDay

 

 

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We have a Finesse private Facebook group where we interact daily to encourage and support one another.  Please join us:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/FinesseYourLife/

Slay Your Day!

P.S. I wrote a book called Finesse Your Life – Mind, Body and Spirit AND the Finesse Your Life Journal is also available!  Check it out on Amazon.com and Amazon.ca!  Paperback and Kindle versions available.  For an autographed copy please go to the website under the “shop” tab or shoot me an email at info@jenslay.com.

https://www.amazon.com/Finesse-Your-Life-Mind-Spirit/dp/1548117080/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1499282890&sr=8-1&keywords=Finesse+Your+Life

 
Want to hang out with me 365 days a year?  Check out the Finesse Your Life Journal.  This journal will help you to focus on gratitude, see yourself in a positive light, and allow you to totally and completely express yourself with no judgement.  https://www.amazon.com/Finesse-Your-Life-Journal-Jennifer/dp/197431720X/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1504891247&sr=8-1&keywords=finesse+your+life+journal
P.P.S I was a featured author in Dreaming Big Being Bold and made the International Best Selling Author status.  Message me at info@jenslay.com to get your copy today!
http://ow.ly/ipjk30eUSXU
Dreaming Big Being Bold 3: Inspiring Stories From Visionaries, Trailblazers & Change Makers by [Morand, Paula, Craig, Victoria]

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

In Conversation with Jen Slay – Guest Delizioso

For TWO YEARS I’ve wanted to start this podcast called In Conversation with Jen Slay where I interview and highlight individuals from all over the world who have gone through significant challenges or who are helping to support people who are going through significant challenges.  As you know, my passion is to provide you the tools you need to live your life bigger and better than you could ever imagine.  This is but one way.

 

Tonight will be our fourth In Conversation episode!  So excited.  Let me tell you a little bit about our guests tonight.

Delizioso are comprised of two young women who are chemists, entrepreneurs and rock stars.  Hmmmmmm?  Check out their bio:

A story of two sisters that discovered the amount of toxic sludge that goes into cosmetics tremendously affects our health. So they decided to change the world of cosmetics and skincare and create a line of all the products that you would ever need. It took a few years of intense research and testing but these products had to be tested, water free, 100% natural, FRESH, raw and truly the definition of purity and luxury.
From the very start Delizioso Skincare sourced their ingredients from beautiful small fair trade farms all over the world. Everything is undiluted and genuine. Including the very unique ingredients that Delizioso Skincare has developed. The products are made to work, be healthy, and luxurious. These genuine fresh treasures are made for you.
European based knowledge of skincare and manufacturing techniques assisted Delizioso to create a line that signifies luxury at its best standards. The best modern scientific testing is brought forth. The most fresh herbs and ingredients are used, freshly grown in the company’s fields. For example: Bulgarian Rose oil, hand picked in Bulgaria yields the pure oil that is incorporated in the exquisite face creams. Just open a jar of Delizioso Skincare and you will immediately an effective and delicious product that harnesses the very power of nature at your fingertips.
How are we different from any other natural skin care lines?
So many natural skin care products are diluted with water and contain very low amounts of actives. Delizioso Skincare prides in never having to dilute our natural skincare. We carry a line of skincare like no other; containing active and biodynamic molecules in every ounce of product. From shower gels to facial creams, your skin will receive extreme nourishment and the highest quality delivery system of antioxidants. Delizioso Skincare is the only company in the world that incorporates our potent anti-oxidant complex in every single formulation. The complex formulated from raw botanicals and fruit oils derivates works to preserve our formulations and increase skin smoothing effects. Asides from that, many of our scents are specially formulated to provide you with a line of natural bath & body care with delicious and natural aromas like passion fruit and pomegranate. Completely original and unique, Delizioso Skincare provides luxurious spa quality natural skincare with outstanding effects on skin.
Our philosophy ‘natural made simple’ is actually quite simple. All our products contain 100% natural, pure, and many certified organic ingredients. Our formulations include the purest essential oils, preserving the products with a natural antioxidant preservative. Being the only company to use a preservative based on essential and plant derivates, Delizioso Skincare prides in being 100% Paraben and synthetic free.
We started our mission in the year of 2008, when our very first formulation was prepared. Environment was always a reason Delizioso Skincare started to prepare natural yet delicious formulations, and bath body products. Another achievement we pride is being 100% cruelty free. We all love our cuddly pets here, and nothing will make us test our products on beings that deserve a right to live. Being that we use only 100% Natural ingredients there are no reasons for us to test on animals. One small hint is even if a company says that they do not test on animals and if their products contain synthetic ingredients, chances are they do. All synthetic ingredients get tested on animals to see whether they are carcinogens and toxic to our health.  Enjoy your stay with us, and our products as much as you enjoy living in a healthy atmosphere!
Ingredients are always fully disclosed…
Paraben Free
Alcohol & Chlorine Free
Petrochemical Free
GMO Free
Gluten Free
Fragrance Free
Formaldehyde Free
Pesticide Free
“We love to make women beautiful using the purest all natural products and ingredients.
Our goal is to bring beauty to everyone.”
Ariel + Leeona Emerald, Delizioso Skincare Founders
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Dreaming Big Being Bold 3: Inspiring Stories From Visionaries, Trailblazers & Change Makers by [Morand, Paula, Craig, Victoria]

 

Separate Fact from Fiction

Do you know someone or perhaps you yourself are the self-proclaimed victim of the absolute statements that our inner bullies love to say?  Bully statements include these words:  never, can’t, always, hate, wouldn’t, couldn’t.  Here’s the thing, if you say phrases such as “I never do anything right” or “I always mess up”, then your brain will start to believe you and you will more often than not fulfill what it is you are saying about yourself.  You are giving your inner bully power.

These types of absolute statements are simply what I call pieces of fiction because they simply are not true.  I will prove it to you.  Please grab a piece of paper.  Draw a line down the middle.  Now, think of the statement that you made, for example let’s use the statement “I always mess up.”  Think of the reasons/examples where you have in fact messed up (just so you know it is normal to mess up sometimes – it’s how we learn the greatest lessons) and write them down on one side of your paper.  Once you have done that, I now want you to think of a few examples where you have NOT messed up and write them on the other side of your paper.  If you can think of ONE thing, then you have already disproved your absolute statement and proven that it is in fact, fiction.

In doing this exercise did you find it easier and faster to think of the negative stuff before the positive stuff?  If you answered yes, don’t worry.  It’s normal.  Research and science will tell us that the way our brains work, we will remember the negative faster than we will remember the positive.  For this reason, it can take a little longer to pull out the positive, however, if we train our brains to think of the positive and concentrate on the positive (on the wins) more than the negatives/losses, the speed at which we think of our positive attributes will get faster.  If you need some help, maybe get the opinion of a trusted friend, colleague or family member.  The operative word here is TRUSTED.

Separating fact from fiction is one way that we Slay our Inner Bully.  We are going to talk about other ways to overcome that inner bully on Friday, January 12, 2018 at 11:30am EST.   You can watch live at www.facebook.com/jenslayvisionary

One more thing!

I need you to know that even though I suggest you focus on your wins it is so important to understand your losses.  We really cannot afford to dismiss them.  To understand why you did not succeed at something is important so that you can do better the next time.  This time of reflection is not to beat yourself up but more to learn and grow from the situation.

You got this!  #SlayYourDay

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P.S. I wrote a book called Finesse Your Life – Mind, Body and Spirit AND the Finesse Your Life Journal is also available!  Check it out on Amazon.com and Amazon.ca!  Paperback and Kindle versions available.  For an autographed copy please go to the website under the “shop” tab.

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Want to hang out with me 365 days a year?  Check out the Finesse Your Life Journal.  This journal will help you to focus on gratitude, see yourself in a positive light, and allow you to totally and completely express yourself with no judgement.  https://www.amazon.com/Finesse-Your-Life-Journal-Jennifer/dp/197431720X/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1504891247&sr=8-1&keywords=finesse+your+life+journal
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Dreaming Big Being Bold 3: Inspiring Stories From Visionaries, Trailblazers & Change Makers by [Morand, Paula, Craig, Victoria]

 

Fear. Dreams. Opportunity.

Setting goals can sometimes feel like a chore and sometimes we will find everything else to do (procrastinate) so that we don’t have to actually set them.  Why we do this?  I could get into the psychology behind it but ultimately, many of us get comfortable in our discomfort and don’t want to disrupt the flow that’s not serving us well.  So we do nothing.

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But let me ask you something.  How does it feel when you accomplish a goal?  Especially one that you had in the back of your mind but never really made a plan for it to happen?  That happened to me last year when I was asked to be a dancer in Dancing with the Easter Seals Stars.  Turns out that this event was like one of the highlights of my life.  I know, sounds dramatic, but it was an experience of a lifetime!

I have always been a fan of the TV show Dancing with the Stars and I ALWAYS felt like I wanted to be a dancer.  However, I will have to admit, gracefulness and Jen Slay are not words that are often put in the same sentence.  I remember a time when I was in highschool when I was walking through Centerspot (a place where all the grade 12s/Seniors hung out) and I just fell.  No reason.  I just fell.  I had tripped over my own feet.  I can still hear the laughter and screams of shock the seniors made towards me – a ninth grader.  I can actually laugh about it 25yrs later.  I remember another time – actually a multitude of times – where I will be walking with my boys and I will stumble.  No reason.  I just trip myself.  My eldest tells me I walk too fast but I’m a woman with a mission (most days) and have somewhere to be!  So, like I wrote, gracefulness is not a word to describe me.  But I would dream of being a dancer on this show.  Literally, I’d dream it and visualize it and feel it.  Then – IT HAPPENED.

One day I got a call from the organizer, Stace, of the Easter Seals fundraiser called Dancing with the Easter Seals Stars.  Easter Seals is a charity that works with physically disabled children to help them experience the joys of life that most of us able bodied people take for granted.  Here’s a link – check it out:  But back to the story.  Stace said “Jen, we think you’d make a fabulous dancer and a great addition to the cast for this event we’re putting on.”  Now, I can see why she’d say that.  I’m a great actress.  Most people THINK that I’m well poised and graceful.  Only my immediate family knows the truth.  Well, and now all of you!  But anyways,  I immediately started to laugh when Stace said this to me because I know that I stumble and fall with no provocation.  Then Stace, likely sensing my hesitation and hearing my laughter, said, “I’m serious”.   I stopped laughing.   I had to give this some thought.  It was one thing to know that I’m a little clumsy but a whole other thing to provide evidence to a group of people that I didn’t know that I am not as “poised” as I let on to be.  However, Stace is persistent – which is why she is good at what she does.  And I agreed to be part of the show!

Can I just say that this was the BEST DECISION OF MY LIFE.

For three months I was trained by a professional dancer.  I learned grace and poise.  I trained hard and developed a deeper appreciation for what I was capable of doing.  I learned to trust my coach.  I relearned that with a goal in mind, hard work, trust, and belief, ANYTHING is possible.   I became my own biggest fan because I was pretty damn proud of myself for pulling off a waltz and a Chacha – WITHOUT FALLING OR TRIPPING!  And when I danced, it was magical.  I’ve attached the link to the home video my son took of me dancing.  It was something that I will always treasure.

So you may be asking – What does any of this have to do with goals?

Well, here’s the thing.  I am committed to helping others while uplifting myself and providing individuals with tools and strategies to empower themselves.  That’s who I am.  It’s what I do.  But I want us all to remember a few things.  Setting goals is more than just figuring out what you want and creating a plan to make it happen.  It is also about being aware of the opportunities as they present themselves.  It is about taking a pause when situations come up to think about how the situation could further you along and potentially meet a goal/dream you have tucked away in your brain.  It is about dreaming.  My experience with Dancing with the Easter Seals Stars allowed me to help a worthy cause while fulfilling a dream that I had tucked away in the back of my brain.   It was a win-win.  But I almost missed it because my immediate reaction was to say no out of fear of looking silly.

What are you worried about/scared of/apprehensive about that is making you say no to opportunities that could potentially enrich your life in ways you can’t even imagine?  You may want to rethink your position and actually go for it.  It may change your life.

While you’re thinking, this blog is also to ask you to support this year’s Dancing with the Easter Seals Stars on September 29, 2017.  I will be there – not dancing though – but I’d love to spend the evening with you!  The poster is below.  Check it out and get your tickets today!  If you are not able to make it then please share the poster.  We want this to be the best year yet and we need your help to make that a reality.

If you have any trouble getting through for tickets let me know and I’ll hook you up with the organizer – Stace.  She’s great!  See you on the 29th!

Love and belief in you always,

Jen

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P.S. I wrote a book called Finesse Your Life – Mind, Body and Spirit AND the Finesse Your Life Journal is also available!  Check it out on Amazon.com and Amazon.ca!  Paperback and Kindle versions available.  For an autographed copy please go to the website under the “shop” tab.

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Want to hang out with me 365 days a year?  Check out the Finesse Your Life Journal.  This journal will help you to focus on gratitude, see yourself in a positive light, and allow you to totally and completely express yourself with no judgement.  https://www.amazon.com/Finesse-Your-Life-Journal-Jennifer/dp/197431720X/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1504891247&sr=8-1&keywords=finesse+your+life+journal
P.P.S I was a featured author in Dreaming Big Being Bold and made the International Best Selling Author status.  Message me at info@jenslay.com to get your copy today!
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Dreaming Big Being Bold 3: Inspiring Stories From Visionaries, Trailblazers & Change Makers by [Morand, Paula, Craig, Victoria]

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