03 Jan

Hack #10 – Be Selfish


I truly wish you all the best that this year (and decade) have to offer!

At this time of year, many people find it to be the time where they make new commitments to themselves and reflect on the past. This time of year can be exciting for some and depressing for others. It really depends on your mindset.

Setbacks are opportunities to reflect, learn and do better. It’s not the time to beat yourself up, fall into feelings of depression or to get angry with yourself for not accomplishing last year’s goals. There are tons of resources to help you with creating a growth mindset (looking at the positive and making lemonade out of lemons – lol). One of those resources is RIGHT HERE!

Over the last month we have looked at 9 strategies to help create/develop a growth mindset. Check them out here:

Hack #1 – Make a decision

Hack #2 – Set some goals

Hack #3 – Get an accountability partner

Hack #4 – Self Talk & Beliefs

Hack #5 – Create & Execute a plan

Hack #6 – Visualize

Hack #7 – Commitment, Passion, Perseverance (CPP)

Hack #8 – Be of Service

Hack #9 – Move Forward

Hack #10 is to BE SELFISH! What I mean by this is that we have to be mindful of our own self-care. In order to be successful at self-care we must be purposeful about it. This means we need to plan for it, save for it, but above all DO IT!

There are so many sayings that speak to the importance of self-care –

You can’t give from an empty cup.

When the well is dry we understand the worth of water – Benjamin Franklin

Self care is not self indulgence. Self care is self respect – gateway

And trust me – the list goes on and on and on.

Part of developing a growth mindset is taking care of your foundation – mind, body and spirit. Why? Well when you are hungry, when you are tired, when you are surrounded by negativity, it is really difficult to see the bright side of things. It’s difficult to set goals and be hopeful. It’s difficult to change your thoughts when your mind bombards you with negativity. I am therefore going to encourage you to spend some time really figuring out what you enjoy and then I’m going to encourage you to go out and DO IT! Fall in love with yourself because you are worth it. I’m not just saying that I truly mean it. I don’t care what you did in your past (whether that past is 10yrs ago or 10min ago) what I care about is what you do right now. I care about what you think of you and how you choose to live a fulfilled life. In a world that is so damn fast paced, it is so very necessary for us to stop, take a breath, and enjoy!

Next steps:

  1. Find a blog, podcast, youtube channel, fb group or other free resource that you can subscribe to and hear positive messages on a daily basis.
  2. Check out the Reprogram Your Brain for Success fb group and take control of what your 2020 is going to look like.
  3. Have fun! Enjoy your life. Make that your priority.

You got this! Slay Your Day!

Photo credit: Howard “Howie” Adams – www.instagram.com/london_lifeportraits

If you would like more information on how to work with Jen Slay or you want to learn more about how to be happy to your core book a 15min telephone session with Jen.  She would love to talk to you. Go to https://calendly.com/jenslay/15-min-slay-session.  You got this!

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Jennifer Slay is an award winning speaker and best selling author. She is a motivational speaker, registered social worker, therapist, workshop facilitator and online teacher. For more information or to book Jennifer to speak at your event, email at info@jenslay.com or call 1-877-786-7190.




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