Sounds simple right? If we want to change the way we think we just have to decide to do it and then do it right? Well, if it was that easy then we would all be living our best life right now. Trust me when I say, there are too many of you who are NOT living your best life and a lot of it has to do with the way you think. OUCH!
It is up to you to decide how you want to live your life. I’m going to get honest with you here – and some of you may get prickly – but know this is coming from a place of love. Your current life situation is based on the choices YOU have made thus far. Your situation is your doing. OUCH x2! None of us want to believe this, especially if we’ve been hurt or manipulated in some way, but it’s the truth. We can view our situation as the worst thing in the world to ever have happened to us OR we can choose to learn the lesson and move on. Simple – not easy.
In life, we are going to encounter people who are very comfortable in their misery. Ask yourself if you are one of them and be honest. If you are a misery lover or know a misery lover, then no matter how upbeat someone is, the misery lover will always find a way to bring the upbeat down. No matter what suggestions are made to improve a situation, the misery lover will find a way for the improvement not to work. Why do misery lovers do this? Misery lovers may enjoy their misery because it is all they have ever known. Why change what has been working (or not working) for them so far? At least they know the outcome right? Quick brain lesson – the more we do things the more solidified the habit becomes in our brain and the harder it is to break it. This goes for our thought processes as well.
You yourself may come from a very challenging background and it scares you that you may live out the same mistakes or think the way your parents/caregivers did. It may frighten you to hear yourself speak negatively and judge others (yourself included) harshly like someone from your past or even in your present. Changing your thought process is hard work. It truly is. Even when you make the decision to change – IT’S NOT ENOUGH. You have to plan and build your supports. But guess what – you can do this. You have an opportunity right now to make a decision of how you want your life to turn out. You can decide your level of enjoyment. Think about this: What do you want out of your life? How do you want to experience your life? Who do you want in your life? These questions are not as easy to answer as you may think. I encourage you to sit and really think about it. Be specific. Once you are able to answer these questions, make a decision to create a plan to achieve what it is that you want.
- Reflect on your life to this point. What choices and daily routines are serving you well? What choices and daily routines are not serving you well? Write them down.
- Join the Be Happy To the Core – Everyday – fb group – https://www.facebook.com/groups/CoreHappinessEveryday/
- What do you need to make your vision a reality? Don’t worry about the how right now. We will get there. Determine what you need. Write them down.
Developing a growth mindset is simple but it’s not easy. You are competing with habitual thoughts that are part of who you are. Changing these thought patterns will take a little bit of time. But if you’re serious, I’m talking REALLY serious, you will get there. I believe in you.
You got this!
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