We have talked about doing a self audit earlier this week
(see Dec. 10, 2018 post) and I promised to offer up strategies and tools to help accomplish a great personal audit. Well today, let’s do a happiness audit shall we?
Happiness is a subjective emotion wouldn’t you think? I mean, what makes me happy will not necessarily make you happy. However, in order for us all to be on the same page with what I mean when I use the word happy let’s work from the same definition.
The best definition that I have come by was written by Rubin Khoddam Ph.D who wrote:
Research in the field of positive psychology and happiness often define a happy person as someone who experiences frequent positive emotions, such as joy, interest, and pride, and infrequent (though not absent) negative emotions, such as sadness, anxiety and anger (Lyubomirsky et al., 2005). Happiness has also been said to relate to life satisfaction, appreciation of life, moments of pleasure, but overall it has to do with the positive experience of emotions.
Basically a happy person will experience both positive and negative emotions but the frequency of the experience of positive emotions is more than the experience of negative emotions. Make sense?
So how do we do an audit? How do we test how happy we actually are?
In my pursuit to find answers to these questions I came across a psychologist named Barbara L. Fredrickson. She studies the science of Positive Psychology and the pursuit of happiness. She and her team have developed the happiness test. Click this link to try it out: https://www.pursuit-of-happiness.org/science-of-happiness/…/
This test will help to measure your personal happiness and provide you with suggestions on how to improve your score (assuming it needs improving).
Try it out! You may be surprised by the result. Remember, becoming aware of your current state is the best way to improve your current state.
For those of you who may be struggling with the concept of being happy to the core, it may be because of that inner voice that I call the inner bully. The inner bully can really feed us a load of crap that we, more often than not, will believe. It will tell us what we can and cannot do while reminding us of all the things we have ever done wrong in life – sound familiar? If you are having some difficulty managing that inner bully or as I like to say SLAYING that inner bully then you are in luck! Check out this link: https://thrivexperts.com/slay-your-inner-bully/ and join me and my partner in crime, Jennifer Jimbere, as we help you to learn the skills and strategies to slay that inner bully.
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