Hello everyone!!
It’s featured Friday and we have a good question today. The age old question of how do you know when you’ve met “the one”? Well, the reality is, life takes you through ups and downs and we change so much that the question isn’t if he/she is the one, the question is, what is my true commitment level to this person? Am I willing to go to hell and back with this person? Remember, you can make it through any relationship when the sun is always shining, the issues arise when the stressors of life come pouring down on you.
There are a few questions you can ask yourself to help determine if you are able or wanting to commit:
These are just four rather simple questions that I believe help you determine if you are really able to make a commitment to someone. At least they get you thinking. We all see the signs along the way. Sometimes we ignore the signs thinking things will get better. But you have to know what it is you can and cannot live with. I’m not being negative here, but it’s almost better to be alone and content than in a relationship and miserable. Don’t get in a relationship just because you want to be with someone – make sure it’s the right someone.
There is this great book called Five Love Languages by Dr. Gary Chapman. It is Christian based, however, the information provided is AMAZING and applicable to everyone. It talks about how we all have certain ways of feeling love – words of affirmation, quality time, gifts, acts of service, and physical touching. When you understand how your partner feels love, then you can adjust the way you express your love to make your partner feel that love. Too often we express our love in the ways WE want to be loved. However, we are not all the same and we all feel love differently and therefore your relationship will have a better chance of working if you and your partner understand how the other wants to be loved. It’s a great book, very reasonably priced and a very easy read. I do not get any money or perks for recommending this book – this is just me sharing with you to try and help you get off on the right start.
Relationships can be AMAZING. They are fun and they are significant. In my experience, the best relationships are those where you have two whole people – meaning two people who are content and full in themselves – that come together and make each other stronger. That old saying of “my partner completes me” – throw it out. Why? Because like I said before, as we get older we change – it’s natural. What happens if the person you are with changes in a way that they are no longer filling that void that completed you? Think about it. Be whole in yourself then bring someone in who can help make your strength stronger.
Always a pleasure spending time with you. Be sure to leave a comment at www.facebook.com/jenslayvisionary and let me know your opinions. Maybe you disagree? Maybe you agree? Maybe you have other suggestions for our followers that can help them with their relationships. We, at jenslay.com, would love to hear from you. Tweet us at @jenslayvision or email us at info@jenslay.com. If you would like your question featured on featured Fridays please send it to info@jenslay.com. We will keep you completely anonymous.
Have an amazingly wonderful weekend!
Believing in you,
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