The Real Deal in Learning to Finesse Your Life

Finesse – to be skillful in managing a sensitive situation.  What situation could be more sensitive than your life?  We only have the one life and a friend of mine said to me once – Life is short but the longest thing we’ll ever do.  Better enjoy it right?  That has forever stuck with me.  Life does seem to quickly go by.  Especially as I get older, time seems to be flying!  I mean, it will be Christmas in less than five months!  It seems like we just celebrated Christmas a few weeks ago!


In all seriousness though, here’s my thing, it is possible to live life all haphazard like, meaning, it is possible to just live and let things happen as they may.  But that is like playing poker.  If you’re lucky then you may get the result you want and if you’re unlucky then you’ll get some results you don’t want.  All in all, you just take things as they come.  I mean, you can live life really laissez fair if you want to but I choose to live life with purpose and direction.  There are pros and cons to both but as you have likely guessed, I’m for team finessing your life.


Like anything in life, I believe that there is a time and a place for letting things happen vs creating a plan, executing the plan, learning from the execution and then living off the fruits.  I know I make this seem simple, and in reality it is fairly simple but that does not mean it is easy.  There is an art to the creation and execution of the plan.  Let me share with you four steps that I think are vital for this to happen:

  1. Determine what you want the end result to be.  What is your objective?  In the end, who do you want impacted?  The answers to these questions may change along the way, but to go in knowing the answers to these questions will at least give you a blue print to what you are doing and will allow you to accomplish step #2.
  2. Build your team. Nothing is done in isolation.  As much as we want to admire the people who say I built this empire/accomplished this goal all by myself – it’s not true.  I guarantee you that there was help along the way.  Whether that help was simply in support and motivation or actual hands in the pot helping to stir, someone helped along the way.  When you are building your team, remember to choose members that are strong where you are weak, who are not afraid to tell you the truth, and who operate in integrity.
  3. Be courageous. With accomplishing any goal, you will need to be ok with taking risks.  I’m not talking about having to take HUGE risks, but risks that are going to push you out of your comfort zone.  Risks that will make you stretch.  Be smart, but be courageous.
  4. Most importantly believe. This is your dream.  You have to believe it.  Your belief and determination to accomplish the dream will be what rallies your troops.  This belief will be what gets you going when you feel like quitting.  You have to believe that your dream is possible and then go for it!

What I’ve shared with you are the beginning steps to the creation and execution of the plan.  Believe me when I say there is more to each of these steps.  However, these four steps or strategies will get you started.  Know what you want, bring on people to help accomplish what you want, be willing to take risks to get what you want, and most importantly believe in what you want.  This is how you Finesse Your Life.  You are strategic in the moves you make to accomplish what you want.  and carefully/purposefully manage the moving parts to propel you forward.  You got this!

I believe in you,


P.S. Having an accountability partner or a coach can help you to accomplish the above.  Check out this video re. why a coach is important and how to select a good one!

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