Motivation Mondays

Cry Baby!

You know, crying is a good coping mechanism.  Truly it is!  Guys, don’t turn away – you want to read this too.

We have been socialized to think that crying is a “sissy” thing to do.  I know a number of men have been told that one before.  “Crying is for babies” – how many times have you heard that?  You know what?  If crying is for babies, then maybe we need to take a look at the lives of babies.  There are a few things we can learn from our young friends (babies):
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What if?

You ever ask yourself “What if…?”  What if I had moved to “x” city?  What if?  What if I had followed “x” dream? What if?  Would my life be better now?  Maybe I would have realized my dream.  Maybe I would have been more successful.”  All of this is true.  Maybe you would have done everything you think you could have and didn’t, but maybe you wouldn’t have.   Many people would say it’s not a good exercise to ask yourself the “what if” question because in reality you cannot go back in time.  Some would say spending too much time thinking about the “what ifs” leads to regret and sometimes sadness.   However, I’m not those people and I’m going to challenge those of you who want to ask that question to ask it because it can allow you to determine where you are going to go.  Let me explain.
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Help! I’m in a funk!

Have you ever been in a funk?  Or not even a funk but just kind of blah?  I know I’m in a bit of a funk when I start eating a lot.  Yes, I am an emotional eater.  There, I admitted it.  That’s half the battle right?  Admitting to a problem?  LOL  Anyways, when I’m in front of my computer at night, writing or reading, or researching and I start eating an hour after dinner – fruit, chips, cereal, chocolate – that’s in one sitting y’all.  I know, I have a problem.  But this is my first clue that something is bothering me.  Times like this I take time to reflect on the good.  This is purposeful, because it is sooooo easy to focus on the bad.  Hey, speaking of focusing on the bad, let me ask you, have you ever done something and it went off well.  You were pleased with the outcome and several people come up to you and congratulate you on a job well done and you try to be humble and smile and say thanks but in your head you’re thinking – Yeah [insert your name] shoot I did do good – LOL.  Come on, you know you’ve been there!  You are on a high!  You’re up there!  You are amongst the stars!  You’re the man/woman!
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Get over it!

It’s mid April!  Can you believe it?  Where did the time go?  We have completed the first third of 2016.  How are you doing with the goals you set out in January?  Be honest.  Some of you are on track, others are off track, and some of you are on and off the track.  It’s ok though.  Really.  When your desire to achieve your goal outweighs your current state of affairs, you will do what you need to do.  That’s just the way life is.  In the meantime – DON’T BEAT YOURSELF UP.
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Empowerment – Not Kim K’s version

Hey everyone,

I don’t really follow the Kardashians and I don’t really have an opinion about them.  They do what they do and make money doing it – most of us do what we do and make money doing it.  But I saw something yesterday that stuck with me and to be honest, annoyed me – GREATLY.  So, yesterday as I was scrolling through facebook, I learned that Kim Kardashian sometimes posts nude selfies (in all honesty I knew that) on Instagram.  Yesterday, I saw a post of her and a friend, nude from the waste up with a black bar across their breasts and they were both flipping the bird (sticking up the middle finger) to the camera.  I’m not judgeing – to each his own.  But the thing that bothered me about this particular nude selfie was that she was trying to show how empowering it is to be able to post a nude selfie and flip the bird.  Really?   This is now how we demonstrate a form of woman empowerment?  Again, to each his own.  I’m not going to bash her or her selfie friend in the pic with her nor will I comment further on it.  But in the spirit of free speech and of women feeling empowered and helping to empower each other I want to show you pictures of women I think show my version of empowerment.
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Choices

Happy Easter Monday!!!!  For Christians, today is the day that is to mark the resurrection of Jesus Christ.  The day Christ rose from the dead after he died for our sins.  Amazing right?  If I think about it, whatever I did in the past is irrelevant if I make a decision to change and do better.  This got me to thinking, there is never a reason for us to condemn ourselves because we ALWAYS have a choice to change our behavior and do better.  So why do so many of us beat ourselves up over things we just can’t change?!?!

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Answer me this…

What’s the difference between joy and happiness?  I’m talking pure joy and pure happiness.  This was one of the topics of discussion in my leadership group meeting Sunday morning.  One of the participants said that to be happy is dependant on what’s going on around you.  If the circumstances around you are dismal, you feel sad.  If they are good, you feel happy.  Makes sense right?  But joy, now to feel joy down deep in your soul is something different.  Feeling joy on the inside is not dependent on what is going on around you.  Feeling joy or being joyful is just a state of being.  It’s being content and knowing where your strength comes from.  Now, I’m not a preacher, but I am a Christian (and don’t apologize or hide it from anyone.  All my brothas and sistas say whoop whoop!! – who said Christians can’t be cool – lol).  As a Christian we’re taught that we get our strength from the joy of God.  When you really comprehend that you can’t help but be joyful because you know without a shadow of a doubt that whatever is going on around you can’t last.  It has to pass and so although you may feel sad, you’ve got that joy on the inside that can’t be stolen away.
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